For many long married couples, enforced male chastity can breathe new life into what’s become a stale marriage.
I want to stress here that I’m talking about marriages where the underlying relationship is strong and sound. In these cases you’re happy with one another and largely content with your lives together, but the zing has gone out of your sex-life and things have become a little pedestrian, slow and, being honest with ourselves, boring.
Enforced Male Chastity…
Is NOT for everyone
If your relationship is not good, though, and if you have that constant, nagging friction making you both unhappy, often to the extent that you can’t stand the sight of each other, your skin crawls at the other’s touch, and the idea of even spending time together makes you want to reach for the whiskey bottle, then enforced male chastity isn’t going to help you one little bit.
Assuming you’ve past that first test, the chances are you’re one of the many long married couples who have just grown comfortable with each other, and that, you’ll be pleased to know, is the chief reason your sex-life isn’t what it was and certainly isn’t what it could be.
The trouble is, we don’t want to make the effort. Neither one of you is solely to blame: we women get other things on our minds (like shopping, housework, kids, etc.), and the men lose the thrill of the chase. That stops them from putting in the effort (effort we ourselves are making not worth their while because we have other things on our minds), and their lack of effort makes us push sex and hanky-panky even lower down our list of priorities.
The vicious circle… and why we’re both to blame for it.
Enforced male chastity helps long married couples by breaking this vicious circle and reigniting the lust in our relationships.
You see, most marriages settle down into near celibacy; but by restricting his orgasms you almost magically do two things: you make him hornier; and that makes you hornier.
Well, he gets hornier because of the simple psychological effect of giving you control of his orgasms (you don’t have to understand why and as a woman, you probably won’t, but you can just enjoy it!); and you get hornier because all of a sudden he’s chasing you again.
It becomes just like it was when you were first together – it’s not that he’s becoming submissive or a “sissy”, but rather you’re bringing back to life those feelings he had when you were his new “conquest”. In fact, it’s even better because you’ve got all the benefits of familiarity long married couples enjoy as well as the erotic physical and psychological benefits of enforced male chastity.
The two-way street…
A word of caution: it’s not a panacea and it’s not something you can just impose on a man and expect it to work. It’s a two-way street, in that you’ll both get out of it what you put into it.
If you lock him and leave him, he’s going to get horny; if you then get irritated every time he puts a hand on you (come on, ladies, we both know that’s a habit we can easily get into, don’t we?), then you’re storing up a lot of trouble for yourself.
I’m not saying you have to make love or allow sexual contact when you don’t want it (always a bad move), but it does mean you have to be understanding and compassionate about it.
Fortunately, this shouldn’t be a problem since long married couples, if they’re sensible, won’t even be considering enforced male chastity unless an increase in their sexual activity is something they actually want to bring about.
Finally… take it easy.
I wouldn’t say don’t expect miracles, because in my experience the improvements long married couples enjoy from enforced male chastity do seem somewhat miraculous.
But they do take time and effort, and there’s no substitute for trial and error: finding out what works and what doesn’t work for you as a couple simply by having a go and occasionally getting it wrong.
By all means do your research and read the blogs and forums, but take what you read with a pinch of salt (most of it is made up: if it seems too silly to be true, it probably is), and even if something rings true, if it doesn’t feel right for you then don’t do it.
Remember: it’s your life and marriage, so live them the way that suits you.
So, if you’re SICK and TIRED of all the hype, nonsense and downright lies you read on the Internet about enforced male chastity then…